有點誤導性的主題
這篇文章是講許多撲克玩家牌打的不錯錢也賺蠻多，實際上的生活卻四分五裂
原文：https://bitb-staking.com/the-courage-to-play-a-bigger-game/
At that point I took a look at my life and I realized that my intimate relationship wasn’t where I wanted it to be, my family relationships almost didn’t exist, I had almost no friends that I felt comfortable talking about these type of things with and I wasn’t being the leader my Poker students needed me to be. I could say I had a reasonable amount of money but my financial situation was a complete mess. I didn’t know how much I was making each month or how much I was spending. I realized I wasn’t living the life I had dreamt of. I found myself living in a place I didn’t dream of and finally realized that I wasn’t living the life I wanted.
我發現我和親密伴侶的關係不是我想要的
與家庭的關係幾乎是0
我幾乎沒有朋友可以談論最私下的自己
雖然我賺了不少錢
但我的經濟一片混亂，我不知道自己每個月賺多少錢與花多少錢
我發現我並不是活在自己夢想的生活
許多撲克玩家想把撲克當正職通常覺得
1) 賺很多錢很自由
2) 到處旅行打牌很幸福
很多撲克玩家達到這些目的後, 才發現自己的生活四分五裂
生活圈狹窄, 和家庭與伴侶關係惡化
如果沒有轉變自己對人生的想法
很多就開始進入憂鬱症
建議多看書多和不同人接觸聽更多想法
了解自己要的是什麼
把學習人生當作學習撲克一樣認真
I realized and finally what came up is that it wouldn’t matter how many tournaments I played or how much money I could win if I felt I was failing in the other areas of my life, especially in the relationships with my loved ones.
我最後發現不管我打多少比賽或賺多少錢, 我覺得我自己生活的其他方面全部都失敗
特別是和我最重視的人的關係
作者在仔細思考自己的人生後，開始不追求頭銜與獎金
開始把自己的時間與心思放在自己重視的領域
I realized that after my success in poker I wasn’t able to take risks in life or in other businesses because people saw me as a successful man and I was afraid to fail.
I was shocked by realizing that I had thought I was this confident, risky, successful man but that was very far from my reality. I realized this was only true in one part of my life, Poker. When it came to other things; I was not a confident man, or a risky man, or successful.
我發現當我撲克上頗有成就，但我在生活其他方面無法冒任何風險． 當大家都認為我是成功的人後，我無法接受自己會失敗
我很震驚，我一直以為我是個有自信、敢冒險、成功的人．
但事實上和我想像差很多，在撲克之外的事物我幾乎是個廢物．
The last thing I realized is that I was being selfish, disconnected and closed off; I wasn’t being a team player for my family or in my intimate relationship. It became easy for me to criticize others and I wouldn’t talk to people that I didn’t think had anything to offer me. I saw how I was presenting myself to others and that the reason I was feeling empty is because I wasn’t giving anything to the relationships around me.
我發現自我自己很自私、也很封閉．家庭上與交友關係上我表現很差．
我時常批判其他人
如果對方對我沒有價值我並不會和對方有太多交談．
我發現我感到空虛，因為我對我周遭的關係並沒有提供任何幫助．
撲克玩家很自私不是新聞 XD
很多騙錢、詐騙等事
衡量事情都用EV來看
吃個飯如果沒有未來EV，那就不吃了
能用小聰明佔便宜檢點EV就檢
漸漸的自己與周遭的關係開始越來越疏遠
I get to be honest all the time, to be courageous and take risks in life like opening up to my family, to say something without caring if I look good or bad, whether I’m right or wrong. To show myself as vulnerable with people is a big risk for me, to show my students my leaks is to be vulnerable.
我的轉變是開始對自己誠實並且更有勇氣對家人更坦白，可以講出一些不是計算過的真心話，不管是好是壞或者是對是錯的．
展現出自己的錯誤與脆弱是個大挑戰
撲克玩家通常很難展現出自己的無知
這可能和他們選擇了一條不被認同的路有關
必須要隨時展現出自己很了解自己在幹嘛 (事實上自己根本不知道)
建議撲克打許久的玩家，當收入穩定後
好好面對自己的生活與家庭
了解自己要什麼，多多接觸世界
頭銜和錢是自己一生在追求的事情嗎?
營利撲克玩家某方面很幸運很多容錯空間
有時間也有錢去追求去探索自我
勇敢冒風險在人生上面犯錯，花更多時間找自己的熱情
不要把心思與情緒都花在上風與下風期
多和其他族群的人社交與結交
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